One Year Later…

A year ago, today, I was hit by a car walking to work. I haven’t even told many people in my family, I guess I just didn’t want them to worry about me. Not many of my family follows my blog, at least not yet anyway. I was extremely thankful and lucky that I didn’t die, or suffer any life threatening injuries from my accident. I only suffered bruises and a bit of swelling. Not even a broken bone. I think my Guardian Angel was my Great Aunt. I like to think that she was watching over me protecting me that day. I remember the last time, I had visited her, she called me her girl, and hugged me. I knew that I always held a special place in her heart.

If you would like to read the original story of my accident, although it may be a bit graphic for some readers. I tried my best not to be too graphic. You can read the original story here, https://threeyellowdaisies.ca/2020/05/29/second-chance/ The purpose of this post is to provide hope and wisdom to other people, and not so much of the story of the accident.

Now I spend my days trying to cram doing all the things that make me happy throughout my days, because we truly don’t know when our last day may be. I was able to start writing my blog again, five months after my accident. I first started this blog in May of 2015, and managed to write it for a year, and took a break, and nearly forgotten about it for four years. But here I am, back and better than ever. And here to stay.

I know that they are many people who lose their lives due to motor vehicle accidents every year. In Canada there were 1,922 people who died in 2018 from a motor vehicle traffic collision. (1) I am truly sorry for everyone who has lost a loved one from a car accident. My heart goes out to you all.

A year ago today, I am reminded that any one of us can die so suddenly, so let’s not waste a day, or even a second for holding a grudge, or hatred towards someone. Why waste a day, being anything, but happy? We should make every one of our days count for something. We should add joy and happiness in someone else’s day. The best part is that doesn’t take a lot of effort. When we make other people happy, it also makes us happy, too. It’s a win win situation. And sometimes people don’t get so lucky with having a second chance at life. So find something that makes you happy, and brings joy to your life. Life truly does go by pretty fast, faster than we think.

I hope everyone can use this tragedy as a reminder to go out and find your passion. Really start living your life. You don’t know what the future is going to bring you, so don’t let it pass you by.

A year later, I still feel pain from time to time in my right thigh where I got hit. I still get a bit anxious going out for a walk, especially at busy interactions, and busy roads. I have always been cautious crossing the street before my accident. And now, I’m even more cautious, if that’s even possible. I avoided having to do any obligations and errands for today, so I don’t have to go outside. It must sound a bit lame, but I just don’t have the strength to go out on the anniversary of my accident.

Getting hit by a car, really changed my life for the better. It gave me motivation to take over my life, again. I learned that I was too focused of living my life to other people’s standards, and not so much as to my standards. I was doing something that people wanted me to do. I even started studying accounting a few years ago, since people told me that I should be an accountant, because I was organized, had a good memory, and good with numbers. I learned that maybe, that’s what I’m not meant to do. And now I am slowly doing the things I want to do for myself. I found my true passions. In the fifth grade I wanted to be a writer, and right now I have been dedicating time to write. I want to add joy to people’s lives, by helping them see the good in themselves, and helping them realize that things do get better.

Throughout the year, other areas of my life have changed, my boyfriend and I no longer live with his family, but now we live with his friend and his family. I no longer work at that coffee shop. Not for reasons related to the accident. That’s just how life worked out for us. I couldn’t be more happy. I was working for someone else’s dreams, and not really have a lot of time to focus on my dreams, and what my passions are. Right now, I have been focusing on my blog, and writing some stories. That is what I am passionate about.

I see this day as a reminder to live my life, chase after my dreams, not try to appease what people want me to do, or they say to me when I’ve just been writing some ideas down. Even though the accident didn’t make much sense, like I always asked myself, why did that happen to me? Why did I lived? I really started questioning my purpose. I’m not working at the moment, but I have been using this time to work on what I am passionate about, which is writing. How thankful I am that I only ended up with bruises. Because I know, not everyone is as lucky. I am thankful that I still get to help others, and that I get to be here for my loved ones. The universe saw something greater in me, than I was capable of seeing in myself, and the universe didn’t want my story to end. This accident ignited a fire in me, that I should do something in my life. It reminds me to always find my purpose and happiness, and go in that direction, and not move backwards.

I hope that people can take away that their life doesn’t last forever, only their legacy does. It’s best not to waste your purpose by living someone else’s dreams. Go and chase your passion. Life is limited, so go out there and make something out of your life.

1. https://tc.canada.ca/en/road-transportation/motor-vehicle-safety/canadian-motor-vehicle-traffic-collision-statistics-2018

December Goals

So I am pretty exciting for a new month, as it means new goals that I get to think of for myself. I have already thought of goals that I would try out this month.

My boyfriend and I are going to go to work towards spending less money on luxurious items, in order to save some, and put towards paying off more of our debts. Which will be really amazing. I am look forward to that.

I have already thought of an idea that I think would make for a good novel, perhaps. I know I’m a bit late, but every November, writers are encouraged to write a novel in those 30 days. I plan on doing that, but I plan on doing that in January since I was a bit busy in November. Then once I complete it, I am going to read it and edit it, so hopefully I’ll be able to share that with you sometime in February. They say the average book has about 50,000 words, so it works out to be 1,667 words a day. Especially you are just focusing on writing your idea, and then after that you spend time dedicating to the editing process.

I would like to make more trying new recipes, because that sounds like a lot of fun.

I am also working on ideas of how I can make 2021 the best year ever! More to come with that idea.

I will also keep on blogging daily, which is always a lot of fun. I can’t’ wait to find out what your December goals are.

November 2020 Reflections

I forgot yesterday was the last day of the month. With that being said, I forgot to write about what November has taught me. I have learnt a lot from November. I continued making reading a habit, which has helped me read some books from my To Be Read List.

I am currently decluttering and organizing my belongings. I am now very comfortable with removing items from my life. I used to have four containers of stuff from my old room stored at my sister’s house. I now only have one of them left to go through. Which I am planning on going through that next week.

I now focus on getting things done right away, instead of waiting a bit to get those errands done.

The importance of saving up money, instead of splurging on some kind of luxuries that I can live without.

I learned that if I prioritize on what is important, I can get a lot done. I have thought of a lot of cool ideas for upcoming stories.

Going for a walk is not only healthy, but important, too.

All in all, I feel quiet proud of what I have learned about myself in the past month. I can’t wait to see what happens to me next month.

Write in a Journal

In this edition of Feel Good Fridays, I’m hear to talk about the benefits of writing in a journal. If you aren’t much a writer, you can draw a picture, or just jot down some ideas and feelings.

This is a post where I try to encourage us to incorporate small ways to make healthy choices and feel good about ourselves even on what appears to the worst day ever.

Writing in a journal is so simple. It has the power to help calm our minds from racing. You can write out a to-do list, which helps you organize your tasks and shows you which ones to prioritize the important ones, and what needs to be done next. You can write about your goals, and how to make them come true. You can use it to keep your goals on track.

It helps reduce stress, while increasing your creativity as well. It’s your journal, so you can decorate it, however you see fits your style. You can decide when and how often you wish to write in it. You can write every day, or weekly. There are no rules, make your own.

Unimaginable Treasure – Chapter Three

Here it is, the third chapter of my new story. It’s called Unimaginable Treasure. Please know, that I will never judge anyone from holding on certain things. So there’s no need to feel embarrassed about it. We are all humans, and we are doing our best. I am not one to judge or express shame among anyone. Please feel free to provide me with any feedback. I will be posting a chapter every Wednesday. Although I am a bit late with posting this week. I apologize for that I was just thinking about what I should write next. I can’t wait to start writing chapter three of this story. I hope you like it.

For those of you who will like to catch up or just reread the first two chapters of the story, click here, threeyellowdaisies.ca/category/unimaginable-treasure/

Chapter Three

After Ben had dropped Sophie off at her house from donating their winter accessories to the homeless people. She walked up to her room, and realized that her room was too cluttered, despite giving away some of her things. She came to the realization that she was just like her Grandma, Mary. She had kept things that she no longer needed to keep. She didn’t need to hold on to three of her Grandma’s tea collection to hold on to her memories of her Grandma. She only needed to keep one set. She decided to keep the rose set, which is the collection her Grandma used whenever she visited her.

Sophie knew that Lisa admired the blue porcelain set, so she figured she would give that to her the next time she saw her. As for the teddy bear collection. She figured a little girl would be able to make memories with her grandma, the same way Sophie has memories of her Grandma.

Sophie later learned that she didn’t need to keep a bunch of Grandma’s belongings to remind herself of Mary. Sophie knew that her Grandma lived in her heart.

She became inspired that she had asked if her parents can help her declutter their whole house. She even called her cousin and asked if they go through their house, donating various items.

She has been encouraging her friends to participate in their school’s donation drive. A few days she had talked it over with her principal, Mr. Johnson, if she can be in charge of the donations. She was planning on giving them to various shelters. Shelters that helped the homeless, men and women who have recently left abusive relationships and didn’t have much of anything since they left in a hurry. Depending on how many people, she would donate some things to thrift and second hand stores.

Mr. Johnson said she could make an announcement on the P.A. system during their morning announcement on Monday. She was so excited that she had began writing her speech.

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Meanwhile Lisa is asking her mom if there are any duplicate items in their kitchen. Her mom then joins her with donating some of the things she no longer uses. Lisa’s mom is very proud of Sophie for organizing this event to help others.

Ben is in the garage with his Dad and he is asking if there are any items that they no longer need anymore.

Monday morning rolls around. Sophie is in the principal’s office with her cue cards waiting for her turn to speak during the morning announcements. When it comes her turn, she clears her throat, and grabs the micrphone.

“Hey there, everyone. My name is Sophie and I’m in the twelfth grade. I have decided that this is the perfect time for us to go through our belongings. Carefully examining if we still use these items, if we have duplicates of them, if they genuinely add happiness to our lives. And whatever we no longer use can be brought in to be donated. There will be a few boxes in front of the principal office which is where we will place our donations. You can donate anything to clothes, kitchen ware, books, games, and any hygiene products. I will then organize everything, and send them to various locations such as shelters that will help out homeless people, people who have left abusive relationships and don’t have much. There’s no better time than right now, since the weather is getting colder, and there are so many people that are in need. We can add some cheer to people’s hearts. We will be accepting donations until next Friday. Thank you so much. Have a great day!” Sophie explained, as she handed the microphone back to the principal.

Sophie was very eager to partake in this challenge. She hoped that everyone donated at least 10 items. She figured she would be spend an hour after school with her friends organizing everything. But as long as she was with her friends, she didn’t seem to mind. She also loved the idea of being able to help others. From a young age, Sophie enjoyed helping others.

Thankful Thursdays #21

I feel that this has been a wonderful week, and I am thankful for the events that have happened.

I hope you spend some time, thinking and expressing gratitude for the things that has happened this week.

1. I have had time to have readathons throughout the week. That is where I have been able to finish some of my books.
2. I spent the majority of Monday cleaning and tidying my room. Cleaning always helps me feel better, and more relaxed.
3. Yesterday my boyfriend and I watched a romantic movie together. We watched The Longest Ride, again. I was inspired by writing about it in my blog on Tuesday. It’s such a great movie. It’s one of my favourite Nicholas Sparks movie and book.
4. I found my favourite chocolate bar in my snack box, I thought I had ate it a few weeks ago. I found it at the perfect time since that was our mini snack for the movie.
5. Got my inspiration to finish what appears to be a neglected story right now. I felt uninspired to write it. It’s called Unimaginable Treasure. It’s about the importance and benefits of decluttering. So I apologize for those that have been patiently waiting for chapter three. In the meantime, you can catch up, or read it for the first time, here http://threeyellowdaisies.ca/category/unimaginable-treasure/ I appreciate any feedback, if you have any. 🙂

November Goals

I really hope this is an amazing month. I want to make myself really proud of what I want to happen in this month. I would like to keep on striving for my goals.

I would like to keep writing and spend more time writing good stories. I know, I have said this before, but one of my biggest goals I have for myself is to write this amazing story, and get published. I am not expecting that to happen this month, but if I keep on practicing, I can make it happen. Big goals take time.

I want to keep on reading many books this month. My goal is to read five books by the time it’s December. If I read more than five, than that would be amazing.

I would like to see if I can eliminate fast food for 30 days. Well, I guess until December 6th, since I had take out earlier. This will be healthy for my health, and my wallet.

Another goal I want to have is be more cautious with spending. My goal is to save more money this month. I know my boyfriend and I are capable are setting aside more money.

What are some of your goals for the month? I would love to hear about them in the comments. 🙂

Writing Another Story

A couple of days after I had finished writing Taxi Driver, for those who are new to my blog, it is a short story that I had written. I learned what I needed to improve on, such as more thorough editing, and learn to be more descriptive with the setting.

With that in mind, I’ll be beginning to focus on my second story. I’ll be writing about the unknown ripple effects of decluttering and how you can become more comfortable with learning to be with less.

I hope that it can encourage others to donate things that you no longer need or use. Especially since it’s starting to get colder where I live. There might be items that you may have forgotten about, and you no longer use anymore. You just never know how much those items will make a complete or a friend so happy.

I really hope that this story might help others declutter, because you can help out so many people and not even realize it.

Fight Right

Whenever you get in an argument with someone dear, instead of bickering and yelling at them, or playing the blame game, perhaps you should try to write them a letter.

When you are writing this letter, be sure to include the following statements, such as, “I feel _______, when you do _______”. And be sure to refrain from my using vulgar language, name calling, or anything else that is negative and uncalled for.

You begin to write about what you are angry, or upset you are, and what caused you to feel these emotions. The person that you are having this disagreement with, is to just sit there waiting for your letter.

Once you have finished writing your letter, you then hand it to the person you are having this disagreement with. If you live together, you can just simply hand it to them. If they don’t live with you, you can safely deliver it yourself, or mail it depending on where they live.

The recipient now can respond to the letter, with what was written to them. They have the same rules where they are not allowed to call you names. They can discuss their feelings to you, and let you know where they are coming from.

Keep on writing until an agreement of how to do things differently, an apology.

The point of this exercise is to be more mindful of what exactly you are thinking. How many times has countless hours of arguing resulted in you saying something uncalled for and unnecessary that made the person you are arguing with feel even worse? This saves you from saying something hurtful, that you will regret later.

And perhaps you and your partner or who ever you are having this disagreement with aren’t the best with words, perhaps you are more artistic. By all means, you can draw a picture instead. And if you aren’t the best at either, perhaps you can find another way to express your feelings in a mindful way.

By finding healthier ways to express your feelings throughout a disagreement, it will save you and your partner a lot of heartache later.

New Story Idea

Hey everyone! I have been thinking about new ideas for an upcoming story. I really like what I have thought of, so here it is. Although it’s still in the early stages, so I don’t have any names, or much development so far.

But my idea is basically about how another person’s trash per se becomes another person’s treasure. It’s going to focus on the benefits of decluttering, and how you may be unaware of the positive effects it has on other people.

I am really excited about to write it. I’m going to brainstorm more ideas this weekend, and hopefully be able to write and publish the first chapter for Wednesday.